As all of you know, Trevor and I run a very successful youth Christian awareness group. We meet with our 47 member group team, three times a week on Wednesday, Friday and of course Sunday. In addition to these meetings we also make special “house trip” calls to members in distress.
This past Thursday we had one of these visits.
Tricia Blackwell is a 17 year old group member. She is a quiet girl and she is a very talented painter. But she has been dating a non-Christian boy from West Lake High and recently his “non-Christianess” got the best of him, and he forced her to engage in a very violent sexual act. The police were called by a friend of Tricia’s after she showed up at their home crying and bleeding from the face.
We were contacted by her parents after they got home from the hospital and were asked to pay her a visit to help with the recovery process. She is very shaken up over this event. Police do have Travis in custody and because he is 19 he will be in jail for awhile.
We showed up at Tricia’s house around 6:45 Thursday night. The Blackwell’s were going to go out Christmas shopping, so we would have some one-on-one time with Tricia.
Trevor asked her the most important question right out of the gate, as he is very honest and quite open about these things.
“What did you do to provoke this?” asked Trevor.
Tricia did not answer right away, I think she was taken back by our bluntness. But we are Christian youth counselor members and we have a right to ask the tough questions, especially of our youth team group members.
She said that her and Travis had gone out driving around to look a Christmas light displays in their neighborhood. They drove around for awhile and then parked and began to make-out? Kissing is allowed as long as the group youth members are 13 years old or older and have no history of mouth sores or gum disease issues. Kissing non-Christians though is not allowed and Tricia knew she was breaking our youth team pact.
Pact #67- “no kissing, hand holding or communicating flirtatiously with non-Christians”.
We have over 260 pacts, which each member must abide by at all times. Failure to do so will result in banishment from youth team fun trips or worse.
Tricia said that Travis was getting aggressive and kept asking to see her with her top off. She said she let him (which is another broken pact agreement, pact #113) but he did not stop there. She said he forced her hand onto his private sexual part and violently forced her to put pressure on it. Then came the big one. He told her that he loved her, and told her that they were old enough to engage in oral sex play (pact #23).
She resisted at first, but she said he was holding her hands and would not let her free. She said he slipped his jeans down and forced her head and face onto his sexual part. He made her open her mouth and accept his sexual part. She said she gagged and cried but he just kept holding her there until he had finished up.
Trevor and I were disgusted and appalled by what we had just heard. It was 6:53pm and we had heard enough.
This, we told her, is what non-Christians do every day and why we warn our youth kids about speaking with or looking at, non-Christians. She asked if God would forgive her for making these mistakes and what she could do to repent.
Here is where things got real difficult.
God is very clear about oral sex…
(1 Th 4:3-7 NIV) “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;The Lord will punish men and women for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.”
At 6:56pm we let Tricia know that she had committed a very serious sin not to mention she broke like 5 of our youth team Christian member group pacts. Even though she did not do so willingly, she was not married at the time nor did she stop the act from going forward. Just like when God gives a mother the strength to lift a car off her child who was just violently run over ,so too does he give the strength to women to avoid rape. But they must initiate the resisting and then God will grant them temporary ultra-strength powers to stop the violator.
Tricia did none of these things and so she will be going to Hell. We also removed her from our youth Christian awareness team group and notified our Church pastor that the Blackwell family had been darkened by this event that Tricia was involved in and that their Church member status should be reviewed.
Please, if you are NOT married and you get involved in a sexual situation that is avoidable and you do nothing to stop it, you are committing a grave sin against our Lord. Oral Sex = Ticket to Hell! Now swallow that one down!